1/23/2013

Plenty of red

When my granddaughter was about 3 or 4 years old, her favorite color was red.  One day I bought her a beautiful red dress.  Just two days later I came upon her in her new dress and there was a big blue slash right across the front of it!
Horrified, I said, "Oh honey, what's that on your dress?"
Very matter-of-factly, she said, "Oh, it's paint."
"Will it come out?" I asked.
"No," she said.
"Oh, no!" I exclaimed.
Very patiently she explained, "It's okay Grandma, there's plenty of red left."

The important thing, you see, was the red.  And there was still plenty of it.

When you think disaster has struck, try to see if there's enough red left.

1/16/2013

Candle of Peace



Light the way.


As this candle is carried from one site to another, the flame of spiritual love and healing continues to light the way for those who seek to know the true self.

Take this light with you to your page that it may light the way to love and healing. Watch as it travels from one place to another and in so doing it embraces our
world with hope.


Peace, Love and Light


Note: if you copy the code from the link above, you will also need to download the image and insert it in your page.

A Little Gem

I stumbled across this little gem on Whitehawk's blog.
Originally published in 1990, it appears to be in the public domain.  However, it has been reprinted and is also available in book form on amazon.com.
I am so enamored of it that I am reproducing it here in it's entirety.  My favorite line is, "Getting out of here is not the point.  Getting more light into here is."  What's yours?
Also, please consider joining the PLO (Planetary Liberation Organization).
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E.T. 101

The Cosmic Instruction Manual for Planetary Evolution

An Emergency Remedial Earth Edition

Co-created by Mission Control and Zoev Jho


DEDICATION

This third-dimensional publication of The Cosmic Instruction Manual for Planetary Evolution is dedicated to all our relations.

—The Intergalactic Council

INTRODUCTORY INFORMATION

The Mission

The mission to Planet Earth was initiated by request of the planet herself. Earth has asked and the stellar councils have granted an evolutionary leap. Over the last millennium Earth has been preparing for our advent. It is now time to enter the Earth plane to reclaim this planet in the name of the Forces of Light and to open her doors to the cosmic community in which she resides.We congratulate and salute those of you throughout the universes who have volunteered for this assignment. Go with our blessing. And remember, read the manual before you get there. Although you are veterans of countless successful missions to numerous dysfunctional life support systems, watch out for this one.This edition of the manual is specifically designed for this planetary system—a system which defies all true rationality and has raised dysfunctionality to an art form. It is also one of the few systems where telling the truth is covertly considered a creative act. Because of the inherent hazards of this planet, Mission Control will not be responsible for any members of this mission who do not thoroughly acquaint themselves with the material contained in this special edition.—Mission Control

12/31/2012

Making your life work for you

I recently had an insight while playing a game of dice.  [note: insights can come from anywhere!  Pay attention.]  There were eight people playing.  During each person's turn I sincerely and truly hoped they would roll the numbers they were trying for so they could get a high score.  When my turn came I just rolled without caring too much what the outcome would be.  I was enjoying the game and, while I hoped I would get what I was rolling for, I wasn't too attached to the outcome.  At the end of the game I had the highest score.  In fact, I scored higher than I ever had before!

In contrast, when I had played that same game before, I became anxious at my turn.  I really wanted the dice to fall in my favor.  At other people's turn, I secretly hoped they would do badly, so my score would be better in comparison.  I never did very well.

How many times have you secretly hoped someone else would fail so you would look better by comparison?  Do you feel better when you notice that someone else is fatter, poorer, sicker than you?  Do you feel worse when you see someone who is thinner, richer, healthier.....?

Our culture is set up so that when one person wins, everyone else loses.  All of our games are set up this way.  This is a dis-ease of the mind.  It is insane.  It stems from lack, fear of lack and a belief that there is not enough to go around.  A belief that if someone else wins, you will lose.  If someone else gets something, you will not.  It's very Darwinian; survival of the fittest, dog-eat-dog etc.

Let's start with a new premise.  There is enough.  Everyone can win.  The Universe will expand to meet all needs.

I used to feel resentment when I saw people who had too much.  They were taking more than their share, in my opinion.  Now, if I catch myself thinking such things,  I change it to being happy for them that they have what they have.  Truly happy.  I appreciate that they have nice things, a nice home or car, a healthy body or beautiful hair.  Whatever. 

When I look around me, my life is very nice.  I appreciate that.  The state of the world doesn't look so good to me, but my immediate reality is very good.  I do what I can about the state of the world but I don't allow it to consume or depress me.  That won't help.  A disaster on the other side of the world is not in my reality.  I wish them well, maybe contribute to the Red Cross, and mind my business.

You get what you focus on.  Mind where you put your attention.  If your attention is on winning at any cost and wishing others harm, that is the experience you will attract.  If you feel over-anxious about an outcome, you are damming up the flow.  If you are fighting a disease or a cause, then you are playing the helpless victim, and that is what you will be.  Instead, make a clear statement to yourself and to the Universe about what it is you want to achieve, imagine what it would be like to achieve it and then go mow the lawn or something. 

Pay attention to how you feel.  Are you anxious, worried, scared?  Is your body tense?  Then you are fighting against rather than going with the flow.

Why not play it like the game of dice?  Don't take it so seriously.  Relax.  Truly wish the best for your fellow players in the game of life.  When it's your turn, have what you want in your mind and roll your dice.  Accept your results, enjoy the game and roll again next time your turn comes around.

12/30/2012

Addictions

Now here's a biggie.

I haven't dealt with all of my addictions to my satisfaction but I have made some inroads.  I have observed the following:

People can and do become addicted to just about anything: food, drink, tobacco, drugs, shopping, gambling, other people, sex, power, money, adrenalin highs (jumping out of perfectly good airplanes for example) etc.

One addiction is no better nor worse than another (except maybe for its effect on the body).  It is sheer hypocrisy to disparage another person's addiction while engaging in your own.

We all want to feel good.  We find something that makes us feel good and we go back to it again and again.  We feel bad and we are looking for something to make us feel better.  It only makes us feel better temporarily, and usually makes us feel worse in the long run.  Physically worse (hangover, headache, DTs), emotionally worse (can't control ourselves), financially worse and so on.  Yet still we do it.  That one second, moment, or hour of temporary bliss seems to be worth it.  The addiction is a mask for the pain.

Stopping an addiction without processing the underlying cause only leads to starting up another.  Stop smoking, eat and/or drink more, for example.  When you stop Cold Turkey, you will feel deprived.  You will suffer the loss of what you thought made you feel good.  You will make up for feeling deprived by acquiring another addiction.

Go towards it, rather than run from it.  Do what you do, but be conscious.  Maybe you just have to quit Cold Turkey if it's something that you just cannot manage doing in moderation and your health is in danger.  But be aware that you will do something else to feel good until you can clear out whatever is really bothering you.  It doesn't really matter what you do.  You don't have to have, do or be anything to be worthy.  The first thing you want to give up is blame, shame and guilt.  You have the right to be here because you are.  You are worthy of your life and you are meant to be happy.

If you want to smoke, drink, fornicate or whatever, then do it with full awareness.  Really be there while you're doing whatever you're doing.  Anything in excess becomes unpleasant and cloying.  If you can remain present (like I explained in the post on eating) then you will know when you have had enough.  Really enjoy that piece of chocolate or that cigarette.  Then stop when you've had enough.

If you need to go Cold Turkey, then know that when you have a craving and you ignore it, it will go away.  It seems that we are not wired to sustain anything for long.  If you give in to it, you will strengthen it.  The cravings will continue to come but if you ignore them they will occur less frequently with less intensity.

If you feel deprived, go toward that deprived feeling.  Meditate on that.  What is really bothering you?  The better you feel about yourself and your life, the more clearing that you do, the better you will feel.  The better you feel the less you will crave doing something that makes you feel bad.

I have a dear friend who has been active in Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) for many years.  One time she explained the whole 12 step process to me, over several days.  I highly recommend it for any addiction, though I have never actually done it myself.  It's all about acknowledging the problem and then forgiving yourself.  And forgiving everyone else.  She said something to me that I am not likely to ever forget: "When there's a hole in your soul, jump in."

Clearing

So, how can we clear out the old gunk so that we can be our authentic selves instead of blindly reacting to everyone and everything?

It's easy to be enlightened if you live alone in a cave on a remote mountaintop.   No one is bothering you.  The trick is to maintain your calm in the midst of the chaos.

First, you have to accept that whatever you encounter was your doing.  It didn't come from "out there," it came from "in here."  You put it front and center to get your attention.  If it wasn't already in you, you would be unable to perceive it.  It just wouldn't resonate.  If it doesn't resonate, you might or might not notice it, but it wouldn't grab your attention.

So, someone or something grabs your attention and it doesn't feel good.  It hurts.  Don't run from it.  Don't hide.  Don't deny or make excuses.  Don't blame.  It just is.  Go toward it.  You can't transform it until you accept it.  You can't get past it until you acknowledge it.  There really is no place to hide anyway.  Wherever you go, there you are.  If you don't deal with it now, it will come up again.  And again.  Believe me.

There are many methods.  Everyone is unique and what works for one person may not work for another.  I have tried many.  I have been to healers, hypnotherapists, counselors and so on.  Some were helpful, some not.  The most helpful thing that I have done is to meditate.  I meditate for 30 minutes every day.  I usually do a guided meditation with words or music.  I have a harp CD that I sometimes use.  Sometimes I use a guided meditation by Abraham, as channeled by Esther Hicks.  Most often I use a guided meditation by Robert Monroe (see books).  I also have a MAP team.  In the back of the book, A Course in Miracles, is a series of daily meditations, one for each day of the year.  These are Christian-based and I had to reword them to my liking, but the message of all religions is the same in the end.  I have done the entire sequence.  It's all about forgiveness.  Forgiving yourself and everyone else.  Holding grudges is deadly.  I have also had success with Acupressure for Emotional Healing.

I hold a specific problem or question in my mind and then I go into my meditative state.  Sometimes the answer comes while I am meditating, sometimes not.  Sometimes it takes many sessions.  Sometimes it comes through some seemingly minor event in my day.  Sometimes in a dream.  Sometimes it has many layers and I can only peel one at a time.  It takes time.  Be patient with yourself.  Sometimes I cry while I am meditating.

Another technique, if the pain or problem is with the body, is to hold the part that is bothersome.  Just put both hands over the area and be with it.  Accept it as it is right now.  Accept yourself as you are right now.  Ask your body what it is trying to tell you.  Then wait for the answer.

I have a few words to add about counseling and "venting."  The only time I have found it really useful to talk to another person about a problem is when I was so tied up in knots about it that I couldn't unravel it.  Then talking about it to an active listener was helpful for me to just get clear on  the actual source of my distress.  Otherwise, talking about a problem just entrenches it, in my experience.  Many people think it's good to "vent."  I disagree.  Venting is just spewing your pain out into the world.  Does it make you feel good?  On the contrary, whenever I have indulged in venting I felt worse.  It's because by venting I am focusing on the problem.  Often I am blaming or trying to make someone else bad and wrong.  This doesn't feel good to me.

If you focus only on what's wrong or what hurts and you are indulging in blame, shame or guilt you are feeding it and giving it power.  Focus on what's right and what works.  What works in your life?  How did you get it to work?  Do that with what doesn't work.  Find things to appreciate, things that please you.

Monitor your thoughts.  Your thoughts follow your beliefs about the world.  What are the contents of your mind?  What are you thinking when your are doing nothing in particular?  Do you like what you see?  Are your thoughts filled with resentment?  Thoughts are real.  Through your thoughts and your imagination, you create the world you perceive.  Perception is reality. 

Sometimes I like to imagine my perfect world.  The perfect society.  What would that look like?

You are never alone.

No one is going to save you.  You must save yourself.  Help is available for the asking, but you must ask.  Then listen for the answer.  It is within you.

Why did we come here?

Why are we here?  Where is here anyway?  What is this place and what am I doing here?  These questions have consumed me for all of my life.

For a long time I was pissed.  It seemed that I had been dropped here, a stranger in a strange land, without even a map.  What kind of a lousy deal is this anyway?  And the natives are insane!  Beam me up!

I still don't know, but I will share what I think, based on many years of searching (and rejecting various doctrines: religion, science etc.)  and many years of meditating.

I am a soul in a skin suit.  I chose to be here, at this time and place, because it gave me an opportunity for growth and expansion.  Some of this I have achieved, but I am still in process.  I'm still here, after all.

This whole physical thing is a chimera.  We have to forget who we really are and where we came from because otherwise we couldn't take it seriously.  It's like acting in a play but we had to forget that we are not really the actor and the play is just make-believe.  Otherwise, we would just walk off stage when things get difficult.  Wouldn't we?  Some do.  It's called suicide.

Just recently, I was complaining a lot.  I still didn't (don't) know my purpose.  Okay, I chose to be here.  Check.  But why?  And why NOW?  I don't fit in.  I don't believe anything that most of my fellows believe.  The current society that I live in is messed up beyond belief.  Couldn't I have come into a more benevolent time and place? 

Then I got it.  We are the ground crew.  What we are is bigger (much much bigger) than our physical manifestations that we seem to be stuck in.  It's like we are the tip of an iceberg.  Only the very tip is visible but the greater portion is below the surface.  We look around at the other tips and we think we know who they are but we don't know shit.  How can you judge the whole when you can only see the tip?  You can't.  You can't judge another person's life. You don't know the whole story.  You can't even judge your own life unless and until you can discover what is beneath the surface.  Whenever I feel tempted to pass judgement, on myself or anyone else, I just remind myself that I don't know anything.  It takes the wind out of that sail.

So.  We are the ground crew.  This is a critical time in the history of the Earth and we signed on to be part of the ground crew.  The entire Universe is watching and benefiting from our experience (including our greater selves, the big portion below the surface).  Our job is to send back reports of conditions on the ground.  Their job is to send in the new energies to help us raise our consciousness. 

And there is a map, after all.  It is within us.  We can access it anytime.  The huge part of us that is below the surface is us also.  We have to alter our consciousness a bit for access.  We access it though dreams, meditation, hypnosis, and the like.  Bringing back the information can be tricky.  Information gathered in an altered state doesn't always translate easily.  But if you ask, the answer will come.  You have to be alert because it can come in any way.  We are quite creative in giving ourselves messages.  It can come in a passage in a book you are reading.  A casual conversation with a stranger.   Finding a lost item.  A street sign (literally, A Sign).  There are no accidents.  It isn't random chance that you are reading a book and a passage jumps out at you.  You are the actor and the play.  There is nothing in your play that you didn't put there.  Pay attention.

I decided that it is time for me to stop my whining and complaining and just be part of the ground crew and do my bit. Whatever occurs to me. I have to trust the process.  Trust the Universe.  Trust mySELF.  There doesn't seem to be much other choice anyway.